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This service has a number of options which all leads to one finding love, we offer a Speed Dating service which takes place twice monthly
and we also offer personal service which means one can require our service without having to take part in our Speed Dating Sessions.

Here are step by step procedures to find your potential soul mate
with Ashen Love Connect:
  1. You will first need to register your account profile.
  2. Complete all relevant questions once logged-in on your account so that we can get to know and understand you better.
  3. After completing the questionnaire, you need to pay the required payment then click “Finish” to complete your profile and secure your sit and chance to meet your potential love connection.
  4. After completing your profile, Ashen Love Connect will match your profile against a pool of other love seeker’s profiles, taking into account your preferences to ensure that a suitable and compatible candidate is matched with you.
  5. Ashen love Connect will communicate with you on the procedures that need to take place once we have found your speed dating mate, this will include the speed dating venue and time.
  6. After the arrangements have been set, the speed dating session will take place where each individual will be given an opportunity to make a connection within 15 minutes
  7. After the speed dating session, once you have made a connection with someone, you can then choose to continue the date at the same venue or arrange your own personal date.


We know that some individuals may not be able to find their potential partners who share same values and not connect well in so many aspects.

For that reason, we have taken it upon ourselves to match you with a suitable potential partner who will be part of the same group you will meet on the date of the session yet that will not be disclosed until a certain period which we call a follow up period.

We will then if you have not made your own connection or rather the one you made on the date of the session perhaps it did not work out?

If your choosen date/partner does not work out? We will offer a special date paid by us, as an effort to ensure you meet a partner, we believe is compatible to you based on our assessment through your profiles.

Why Join ASHEN Love Connect

Ashen Love Connect is all about reality check. It is all about connecting real people with genuine intensions and interests.
We focus on choosing the right people who are not only ready for love but knows what it means to be ready and
having the ability to live up to those realistic expectations of others as they would for themselves.

We not only organize venues for mature individuals from the age of 21-60yrs but we make sure to go an extra mile
by understanding each individual better so we can find them their suitable partner yet still giving each an opportunity to make their own choices.
We intend on rebuilding what we believe has been lost which is the good old date time,
connection, respect, privacy and understanding of one ‘s personal needs

Affordable pricing

We are consistently trying to work with our clients in bringing about the best services at reasonable, considerate and satisfactory pricing.
We do this by ensuring that all our clients are satisfied with our services, by means on surveys follow-ups etc.

ASHEN Love Connect Dating Advice

What is ASHEN Love Connect Dating Advice?
We offer relationship and dating advice with a difference; no-nonsense, realistic advice from the relationship experts.
Worried about your next date? Confused about the next step in your relationship? Concerned you lack confidence to find love?
Find answers to all your relationship and dating questions here.

When’s the right time to say ‘I love you’?

Despite stereotypes about the people being reserved, it seems we’re relatively forthcoming when it comes to declarations of love.
In fact, though most people wait around three-and-a-half months to say ‘I love you’ for the first time, one in 10 drops the ‘L Bomb’ within a week of meeting a new flame.

In terms of location, most of us share this sentiment at home (19%) or whilst cuddled up in bed (14%). Perhaps aided by courage, pubs and restaurants are also popular spots for couples to say the three magic words.

The research also found that men under 35 are most likely to blurt out the L-bomb quickly with almost a quarter doing so in a week or less. Whether this suspiciously high number means it’s being used to smooth the path towards first-time or more sex is open to conjecture, but it challenges the common perception that women are most likely to wear their hearts on their sleeves. It could also be tied up with cultural cues which still emphasise the role of men in initially formalising a relationship in terms of exclusivity.

So overall, what of the one in 10 South Africans who declare love after just one week? Are they simply romantic souls or bordering on reckless?

While some partners might bask in the compliment, others are equally likely to run for cover. Too much intensity has often led to the early demise of initially promising pairings

The truth is that some relationships do move incredibly quickly and evolve into happy, long-term events. But one week into a romance, what you’re likely to be experiencing is infatuation rather than love, boosted by a cocktail of endorphins and sex hormones.

And during those early days of high-intensity passion, it’s easy to be blinded to a partner’s true character. Be it friends, colleagues or lovers – it takes months to get to know someone properly.

It certainly takes more than a week to determine whether you’re compatible and share the same values and personality traits – the gold standard for lasting love.

Therefore, if in any doubt hold off on dropping the L Bomb until you instinctively feel you’re on steady ground and have enjoyed a variety key experiences together. Sometimes, it’s slowly-cooked recipes that make the most delicious dishes.

How to know if you’re in love

Is it real love or just obsession? When you’re in the throes of a new relationship,
it can be hard to determine infatuation from the real thing.
Kedibone Ngoasheng explains how to know if you’re in love

I’ve claimed to be in love more times than I care to remember.

For me, nothing can top the feeling of falling in love. It’s completely intoxicating.

The problem is, because falling in love is such an overwhelming experience, we often get confused. Is it real love that we’re feeling or just infatuation? Is it an obsession that will inevitably burn out under the weight of its own intensity?

In the early months of my courtship with my now-boyfriend Joe, I panicked that I was repeating the same old patterns from previous relationships.

The first three months were always magical, but the moment the excitement started to wear off, I mentally and emotionally checked out of the relationship. I was always certain that real love was waiting for me in the arms of someone else.
Having played out this scenario one too many times, it soon became apparent that couples who had managed to go the distance had an entirely different understanding of what being in love really means. I became determined to learn what they seemed to already know.

The following list is comprised of my tried and tested research in to the difference between ‘faux’ love and love that’s the real deal (and therefore more likely to stick around!)

If you’re currently in the throes of a new relationship – or you want to reevaluate how you feel about your current partner – I encourage you to bite the bullet and see how many of these real love indicators resonate for you.

It’s easy to be yourself around them

I’ve spent far too much time trying to be the person I believe the object of my affections wants me to be, rather than who I really am. Faking it like this is only sustainable for so long; sooner or later, you’re going to be found out and it’s likely to have a negative effect on the relationship dynamic. When it’s real love, you’ll feel like you can be yourself around the other person immediately. That way, if they do fall in love with you, it’ll be with the authentic you, not an idealised version.

You can see them in your future

We live in such an instant culture now. We’re increasingly fixated on getting what we want now, rather than thinking about how that fits with who we want to be and where we want to go in the future. If the love between you and your partner is real, you won’t be able to stop yourself picturing your future together. It’ll feel exciting and expansive. On the other hand, if it’s fake love, you’ll probably stop yourself looking too far into the future because you know, deep down, that your relationship has an expiry date. This is a highly inconvenient truth as it means we’ll have to endure a break-up at some point, which is why we tend to dismiss it for so long.

You’re not interested in other people

From my own experience, I’ve learned that infatuation is a fickle beast. One minute you’re completely obsessed with someone, certain that no-one else could make you happy. The next, they start to irritate and annoy you, or fail to live up to your idealised perception of them. This inevitably leads your eyes and attention to wander elsewhere. When it’s real love, your focus remains solely on the person you’re with because, even in the rocky phases, you know they’re the right person for you.

They inspire you to be a better person

When I met my boyfriend Joe, I was struck by how many great qualities he had that seemed to come naturally to him. For example, he doesn’t care what other people think of him, which makes him easy to be around because he’s not trying to be someone he’s not. As a chronic people pleaser, this wasn’t a quality that came so easily to me, but the more time I spent with him, the more I was inspired to try to let go of other’s opinions of me. When it’s real love, you’ll be drawn to the inner qualities of the other person, rather than the external makers of success, and you’ll, no doubt, want to become a better version of yourself as result.

Your friends approve of them

My friends have always been pretty spot on when it came to spotting who was (and wasn’t) a good match for me in the long-run. Sometimes we’re so blinded by our infatuation and obsession with our new partner that we can’t see how totally not right they are for us. Our friends and family can be far more objective. They’re not emotionally invested in the relationship like we are and they know who and what is most likely to make us happy. While your opinion is ultimately the most important, don’t completely ignore advice from you loved ones – they really do have your best interests at heart.

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ASHEN Love Connect's Science of Dating

ASHEN Love Connection is unique amongst the best dating sites because of the way we get to know you.

Your answers in our questionnaire help us understand how you see the world, so we can match you with people that share that view.

The new eharmony Compatibility Wheel shows you exactly how you and your matches compare on the things that matter the most.

Try dating with Ashen Love Connection today and subscribe to get access to all the features that will help you meet compatible matches.

  • Date as much as you possibly can
    Because you can’t figure out what works for you and what doesn’t until you meet people with a variety of traits and see what is like hanging out with them
  • What can you absolutely not stand
    nail-biting, sarcasm, chronic lateness? — And what do you absolutely need for your relationships to work — a sense of humour, cooking skills, an appreciation for '90s cinema?
  • There's a flip side to this strategy
    Once you figure out what works, what do you need to do to attract someone with those characteristics? How do you make that relationship function? You don't know unless you try.
  • Have fun, and show it
    what we're saying here has a lot to do with point #1: You want a fun person that likes fun? Show off how much fun you have, and how much fun other people have with you.
  • The study also found that women were more attracted to men when other women in the photo were smiling at him, but proceed with caution here. No one wants to see your ex on Tinder.
  • Be Communicative
    especially if you date women - If you're hoping to hear that click, the first step is to listen for it and respond.
  • Use the 70:30 rule in your online profile
    That is, devote 70% of your profile to who you are, and 30% to what you're looking for in a partner. In a study of personal ads (the ancient predecessor of Tinder), author Richard Wiseman found that both women and men were turned off by ads that were 100% about the writer — it made them seem self-centred.
  • On the other hand, ads that were less than 70% about the writer seemed suspect, as if the potential date is deliberately concealing something.
  • Make anxiety work in your favour
    First dates are definitely nerve-wracking, but that's doesn't mean you have to let anxiety get the better of you. If self-assuredness is an attractive quality, how do insecure people date successfully?
  • It turns out that people that are insecure but romantically successful manage to channel their nervous tics into behaviours that are linked with other, more attractive qualities. A nervous talker can come across as a brilliant conversationalist, and eagerness to please is easily interpreted as niceness.
  • If you're the kind of insecure person that tends to withdraw behind a wall of jokes, that's fine too — it turns out humour is a great dating tactic.
  • Insecure people who were able to put a positive spin on things ended up being perceived as more attractive than people who seemed secure.